Missing

"Missing someone isn't about
how long it has been
since you have seen them
or the amount of time
since you've talked.
It's about that very moment
when you're doing something
and you wish that they
were right there with you."

Missing
I believe is an appropriate name for this blog
because it can be read as two ways.

1. The act of missing
2. People you are missing

There are some people in life
that you would never like to lose,
but disappear regardless of your feelings.
This blog is to them.

It is a fact of life that some people
you would rather never be parted with
inevitably leave, not necessarily by death.

THE FORGOTTEN:

Sometimes people that you care about more than anything
simply forget about you, or worse you forget about them.
Only years down the road do you ever realize
what they meant to you, and that you can never have them back.
(unless you are lucky)

THE DESEASED

This is probably the most common of the "Missing" categories.
Death is an inevitable part of life,
though most people refuse to admit it.
The passing of someone that you truly care about
is never easy, but in some ways is probably
the most bearable of the missing cases.
I say this because at least you know
that if they were alive you could be with them,
on the otherhand it can be the most painful
if you do not believe that there is
life after death because they cease to be,
and will never ever be with you again.

THE TRAVELERS

This, as far as I'm concerned,
can be the most painful of disappearances.
The disappearances that don't want to be found,
or at least by you anyways.
I say that is the most painful
because usually you are to be at fault
that the person no longer wishes to be near you,
and you can think about that as long as you wish
and pray that it was different, or that they will come back.
The truth of the matter is, that doesn't necessarily,
and probably in a lot of cases, doesnt happen.

So what choice do we have other than to miss?
In the case of dearly departed we must live on
because nothing we can do can bring them back...
but what about the cases of the forgotten and the travellers?
What would be the appropriate answers?
The thing is as much as we miss people,
it doesn't necessarily mean
the person we are missing shares our feelings.
Nowadays feelings never seem to be shared in equal amounts,
someone is always way over,
and the other far short.
So how do you know if it is right to make the leap?
Try to reach the missing...
and in the case of the travellers
will it bring them more anguish?

In the case of the travellers it is entirely possible
they miss you as much as you miss them
and are afraid to act because they feel dumb
about packing up and leaving without notice.
But if you are willing to take the risk,
do you really miss them?
Because you are acting in order
to deminish your own feelings,
but what if you are bringing chaos upon
their newly constructed lives?
So is it selfish?
Suppose that depends on whether
they miss you in return,
but how do you know?
Back to square one again.

The past is the past,
but should we try to make amends with it
or accept it as it is?
Is it alright to possibly disrupt
the future in order to make amends with the past?
Or perhaps fix the past to create a new future?

The scale is balanced but
how does everything weigh in?
And what was everything worth to begin with?