Saturday, December 20, 2008

invisible

Dear X,

I want you to know that, despite everything, you are still my friend. No matter what has happened, no matter how much time has passed, no matter how things might have ended, I still care. Maybe we don't talk anymore, or maybe we just don't talk about the right things. I want you to know that I still love you. Sometimes, I have watched you struggle, and wished that I could have done anything to make it easier for you. I've cried for you, and I've worried. I hope
that the positive vibes I fervently sent your way helped somehow. Maybe it doesn't matter, but I still think positively on your behalf, even if you can't. But maybe I don't know how you're doing, or what you're been up to. I send my best wishes your way, just in case. I wish I was better, stronger. I wish I could have kept the promises I made to you. I wish I could say this directly to you.

Love,
You invisible friend

Wednesday, December 17, 2008

Terrible Marketing Consumerism Woes

There are some things that you JUST DON'T DO when trying to market something.

1.) Have a lame theme song

2.) Having a lame mascot.

3.) Giving your product a surname.

For example, any movie that is a sequel to a subsequently terrible beginning always has a bad surname. I just saw the trailer for "Punisher II: Warzone. (which proudly boasts Ray Stevenson as the lead character.) "Hellboy II: The Golden Army," not necessary. How about just "Punisher II." Is that not good enough? Why add such cliche surnames as "Redemption, Apocalypse, Extinction, Evolution, The Aftermath, Reloaded, , Red, White, and blonde, the Revenge, the streets, havannah nights, back to tha hood, etc?" It just makes it sound as cheesy as it will be.

Lame mascots include but are not limited to, The Verizon guy, the Gieco Gecko, Ms. Buttersworth, talking dogs for dog food, those simon and garfunkel rip offs for Burger King, the lips for Dairy Queen, and any washed up actor, sportstar, or model that endorses an energy drink or workout equipment.

I have it out for stupid marketing. Commercials are just irritating. Can consumerism be that dense that we really would eat at Rally's because Rick Pitino says that he does? And how come all of the KFC commercials show black people sitting around the table exclaiming, "This be some good chicken!" I mean, wow. If I were black, I would be offended.

Sunday, December 14, 2008

This is letting go

An old piece I found that never made it's way to my blog. Thought I would share it. If anyone is curious as to who it was wrote too, ask and I'll let you know.

that night, the night when i finally said 'enough is enough,' was biting cold as i slipped out of the party, struggling to hold back my tears & making it only as far as the car, where i spent what seemed like ages fumbling with my keys until i finally felt the lock give & rushed, shivering, into the driver's seat. it took a minute for me to move; i sat there instead with my hands on top of the wheel & my forehead pressed against it, taking in deep breaths of the cool air that was slowly becoming tolerable. sitting up, i wiped my eyes, though it was as useless as a shoveling snow while the blizzard is still happening, & began to drive. i had no where to go, but somehow it seemed like the only option. the lights of the city all blurred into one & i could barely make out the reds, greens, & yellows of the traffic signals as i drove along. my head was no longer doing the driving, though; instead, it was my heart, & i somehow found myself at the football field. you know the one. you remember the night. & as i sat there, i saw it all play out, & through my tears, i smiled. the next place i passed was the sidewalk in front of your parents, the one where we stood kissing in the rain. i closed my eyes, & the wetness on my face was still there, almost as if it were happening again. next were the flower shop, the gas station, the car wash... i passed the park & i saw the very place we had parked that night. it couldn't possibly have been almost a year ago, could it? because i could still feel the way i had felt that night, the way my cheeks had ached from smiling so hard. the bowling alley, the movie theater...every place has it's own story, it's own unforgettable memory of 'us.' remember when it was 'us,' not 'you' & 'me?' i kept driving, letting occasional sobs escape my mouth as the rain from my eyes steadily fell, & i went to the place i knew would hurt the most. i drove past your road, past your house where we drove through the fog & you gave me a kiss on the cheek while i drove because you 'couldn't help it,' & finally i saw it. the rest stop. our rest stop. For an entire year it had been ours. i parked the car this time, walked out to the table where we had layed together, & laid down in the freezing cold. the cold wind burned my face, but when i closed my eyes, i could almost swear it was your warm breath brushing against my face again...i could almost feel your skin against mine, here you whisper those three little words. & i swear, at that moment, the tears were gone. i sat up & looked around. the grass, the grass we had made memories on, was no longer beautiful; it was ugly & brown & had lost the magic it once possessed. i almost laughed at the irony of it all. instead, i sighed, slowly got up & walked to the car. with one last look, i got inside, started the ignition & wiped my eyes completely dry. '& this,' i thought to myself, 'this is letting go.'

Friday, December 12, 2008

The Religious Case for Gay Marriage

How many times have you had to hear opponents of marriage equality cite passage after passage from the Bible? How many times have you wanted to know exactly the right response to their literary acrobatics?

Newsweek's recent cover story, "The Religious Case for Gay Marriage" provides just that – debunking all the popular myths.

The response? On the first day, Newsweek was "bombarded" with 20,000 emails in opposition to its article.

Stand up for equality and fairness - send Newsweek a note today.


The current cover story of Newsweek magazine titled, "The Religious Case for Gay Marriage" should be read by each and every member of our community. The piece provides an in-depth debunking of many of the popular myths about Scripture that the religious-right has used time and time again.

How refreshing to see a major, mainstream American news outlet speaking the truth in such a courageous way.

But, as you would fully expect, the right-wing has launched a massive uproar to the piece by flooding Newsweek's editors with thousands of letters in opposition. Last night Lisa Miller, Religion Editor for Newsweek Magazine and the article's author, was interviewed. You can hear Lisa in her own words describe how on the first day the story came out Newsweek was "bombarded" with 20,000 emails in opposition to the article.

Friends, when someone is courageously willing to stand up and take on the those who have for so long twisted the words of the Bible and gone unchecked – it is our obligation to make sure they know that there are also millions of us standing right on their side.

Don't let the voices of extremists silence those of inclusion and truth. Join me by sending a letter of support to Newsweek today.

You too can make sure that the voices of equality and fairness aren't drowned out by those who oppose our families.

Saturday, December 6, 2008

A New Paradigm

Imagine that you and Bill Gates
enter into a poker tournament.
Bill is allowed to bring
all of his money
and you are allowed to bring all of yours.
What will be the result?
Bill will make you go all in
on every hand
and even if you win a few hands,
Bill has enough resource
to eventually break you.

This is the scenario
for the average American
working class citizen
who is told that if
he or she works hard,
it is possible to rise above
the straights to which
they were born
and become a person of affluence.
Is it possible? Perhaps.
Is it possible for you
to succeed in breaking
Bill Gates in a poker game?
Perhaps.
Is it likely? No.

If you consider the lopsided distribution
of wealth and power, coupled with
a culture of institutionalized racism,
is it any wonder why
so many Americans
feel disenfranchised?

“All men are created equal.”

I have some issues with this statement.

a) What about women?

b) Created implies that someone
picked up a piece of clay and formed us.
Sorry, my religious God-believing friends;
I don’t buy it.

c) People are not all the same.
Which is the what the word "equal" means.

This statement was written
in another time
and has served us well in the past.
But like all things,
it’s becoming a thing of the past
and of little use in a time
when everyone being treated equally
is an institutionalized excuse
for allowing the rich to get richer
and the poor to get poorer.

It is time for a paradigm shift towards equity.

What is the difference between
being treated equally
and being treated equitably?

I had a deaf student
in one of my classes
when I was in high school
(a very good student, by the way).
Because of her disability,
there was a sign language interpreter in the class.
If she was being treated with equality,
there would have been
no sign language interpreter
and she would have been expected to perform
at the same level as everyone else.
Remember, equal means the same.
But luckily, she wasn't being treated equally;
she was being treated equitably,
which means she was getting
the extra help she needed
to thrive and reach her full potential
as a human being.

Equity, not equality.

So how do you find the best poker players?

The capitalist mindset would have you believe
that if there is a big enough carrot
being dangled out there,
the cream will naturally rise to the top to nab it.
The idea being that individuals in society
will follow Darwin’s model
and climb our culture's evolutionary ladder
and thrive if, and only if, they are the fittest.

But there are a couple of things wrong with this notion.

First of all, consider the human quality
that is absolutely necessary
for a person to achieve a lofty position
in our capitalistic ecosystem.
Is it kindness? No.
Is it compassion? Hardly.
Is it generosity? Please, spare me.
A person who reaches the highest
of the trophic levels of our economic system
may not be devoid of these qualities,
but these are not the qualities that got them there.

Greed got them there--
the wish to have more,
the desire that puts an individual’s needs
and self-worth above all others,
the driving force that propels a person
up the economic food chain,
clawing and clambering over
the backs of others
who are also fighting their way to the top.
I’m not talking about people
who become doctors and lawyers and such
in order to achieve a comfortable living for themselves.
I’m talking about the two percent
of the population that controls 95 percent of the wealth.

Do we really want to live in a society/culture/economy
that is built on a negative human quality?
I know I don’t.

Besides, it is a flawed notion to begin with.

Evolution propelled dinosaurs to the top of the ladder,
where they stayed for millions of years.
Mammals lived alongside the dinosaur,
but could not flourish because of
the oppression of the dominant species.
It was not until a cataclysmic event
killed off all of the dinosaurs
that the lesser species-- mammals-- could thrive
and reach their greater potential.

So in their infinite wisdom,
those who hold poker tournaments
require that everyone enter the game
with the same amount of cash.
With everyone starting on an even footing,
chances are that those with the greatest ability,
not those with the greatest resource,
will come out on top.
With a level playing field,
it takes skill and ability
to out maneuver your opponents,
as opposed to just having
the resource to overpower them,
much like a brontosaurus steps on a fury rodent.

The wealth (and so, the power) in the U.S.
has steadily, over the last couple centuries,
shifted into the hands of a relative few.
When the phrase “all men are created equal” was coined,
the culture was largely agrarian-- with tradesmen
and shop keepers providing goods and services.
And the “men” in the phrase were just that
-- excluding women, excluding Black men,
oh, and by the way, they only included property holders.
The original phrase was “life, liberty, and the pursuit of property,"
not "happiness."

With this shift of resource and power
to the relative few, it has become
increasingly difficult for the cream to rise to the top.
Those at the top are firmly in place;
so firmly that when they screw up royally
and send our economy to its knees,
as it has gone recently, the government bails them out.
The cream at the top no longer has any accountability;
this is how entrenched they are at the top.
It is tantamount to socialism for the rich
and capitalism for the rest of us.
The system is broken.

The fix, then is logically a redistribution of wealth.
Level the playing field so that those with real talent
have a better chance of attaining their dreams,
even when they are born into one of the oppressed classes.
Remember the dinosaurs?
Where would we be now if dinosaurs still ruled the Earth?
We would still be scurrying around
trying not to get stepped on.
It is not until we have a system
that treats people equitably (as opposed to equally),
giving everyone what they need to thrive
and reach their full potential,
that we will, as a culture,
begin to move towards our greater potential.

Is this socialism? Sure it is.
But socialism is not at odds with democracy
-- one is a political system and the other is an economic system.
We have been duped into thinking that socialism
is necessarily a bad thing.
When socialism is paired with a dictatorship,
we call that communism (USSR, China, etc.).
When socialism is paired with fascism, that's Nazi Germany.
Has anyone tried pairing socialism with democracy?
We tried once with the rise of the unions
and it was working out pretty well for most of the people.
When unions were strong, the economy was, for the most part, stable.
Those under a union's protection made a decent living.
This strengthened their buying power
and so bolstered the overall economy.
But unions were attacked by those with power
until former President Ronald Reagan
finally squashed the union system
(and our economy) back in the 80s.
The economy has been relatively unstable,
violently bouncing up and down, ever since.

So, as the new administration
under President-elect Barack Obama
begins its work and those who have power
start their propaganda machine
and begin to rant about socialism,
ask yourself where you would be
if dinosaurs still ruled the Earth.
And do you really want
to let the dinosaurs continue to rule the U.S.?

Sunday, November 30, 2008

I am calling...

I am calling for a queer revolution
This is my proclamation
to our emancipation
It is a solution
to the dilution
it is a solution
to the deletion
of our rights
our freedom of expression
our freedom of being,
our freedom of life,
liberty, and the pursuit of happiness

I am calling for a queer revolution
it is no longer acceptable
to discriminate and hate
and yes I have become irate
because it is no longer acceptable
to classify me my friends, my family,
the ones that i love
it is no longer acceptable
to classify all of us
all of us, as secondary class citizens
we have called for change
over, and over, and OVER again
and yes, this right here, this is it

I am calling for a queer revolution
another stonewall

No longer shall we tolerate the injustice
no longer shall we be scared in public
running from our lives, from there lives
no longer shall this oppression
be my oppression, be your oppression
be our oppression

it is time to step forward
to look forward
and move on

you think you can continue
to break mirrors
to stab hearts
drop pins
and break bounds
but you know what
we are about to do the same
because i am calling
for a queer revolution

This is my proclamation
for our emancipation
I am sick and tired
sick and tired
tired of being sick
over this war
here within our hearts
within my heart

I am calling for a queer revoltion
because this, this is our nation
under god, indivisivble
with liberty and justice for all
for ALL

this is the change
that the founders of our nation
came here for
but it has fallen between cracks,
it has fallen between lines
and between the lives
of those who shouldn't have been lost

so i am here,
and i am calling
for a queer revolution

our progress will be a success
for our people
you know what,
for ALL people
because no longer
shall we be classified
as second class citizens
in this nation, under god
indivisible,
with liberty and justice for all

Thursday, November 27, 2008

To all who read my blog

I do appreciate comments.
I sort of feel lonely
when i check back
and don't see any.

So come one,
spoil me with comments.